So, we’ve been back in the States now for 5 months, and we’re still living on full financial support– which we did while living overseas, but somehow seems harder now that we’re back in the ol’ U.S. of A. (Notice our latest “prayer card family picture” above. Cool, but not as cool as the one in front of the rice field or crammed on a motorbike, right?) Here are some other reasons why:
Top Ten Reasons It’s Awkward Being on Support While Living at Home
10. You feel like you have to sneak to the wine shop.
9. You hear the phrase “real job” and your heart starts to palpitate because you think that what they think is that you don’t have one.
8. If you get caught out at lunch or around town midday doing something practical or -gasp!-fun, you fight the urge to duck and cover. Even if your husband’s already logged 468 hours overseas that month, you consistently work after the kids are in bed, or have meetings most weekends.
7. Monthly newsletters are much more difficult to pull off in the picture arena because you have to start recycling old photos of when you were overseas. No one wants to see your kids at their normal, average school in America or your husband working at the local Starbucks with his laptop. It’s much more exciting to pose your kids in front of a rice field or snap a photo of your husband talking to a local in tribal dress.
6. You have to pay for your own independent health insurance and self-employment taxes. Unfortunately, neither of which fluctuate as much as your monthly paycheck.
5. You have to travel a lot. Or your husband travels a lot, leaving you to man the home front alone, a lot. Resulting in peanut butter sandwiches for dinner, a lot. (There’s a whole post about this one.)
4. You have to graciously field the statement from potential full-time ministry workers, “Oh, I could never live on support.” (Seriously, how is a supported missionary supposed to respond to that sentence?)
3. You feel like you are sending the wrong message when you show up somewhere halfway-fashionably dressed. “Isn’t she on support? They must be doing just fine. Look at her nice boots.” Nevermind that literally your entire outift came from Goodwill, including the socks.
2. You experience paranoia in the checkout line, assuming supporters are evaluating the items in your cart. Like if you splurged that one time and bought an extravagantly gorgeous Christmas wreath for $20 whole bucks that you really, really loved, only to find yourself in line behind a sweet grandmotherly-type who faithfully writes you a check for $20 monthly. Somehow you feel you should put the wreath back and pick up some generic macaroni and cheese for dinner instead.
1. You are not nearly as cool on Missions Sunday because everyone sees your very-average family every Sunday, anyway.
And later this week? A post entitled: 10 Ways I’ve Grown from Living on Support. (Lest you leave with the opinion that it’s all bad.)
So, let’s have it– ever lived on support stateside? How’s that worked out for you? Anything “awkward” to add?
And ‘fess up, are you a judgey-cart-supporter? Are you more apt to give internationally or locally to a missionary-type?
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