Dear Homeschooling Mom Who Is Considering Putting Your Kids In School Next Year,
Even if you’ve waved the homeschooling banner strong in years past, you are not less of a mother for considering sending your kids to public school full-time. It is not failure to change direction mid-course, and it doesn’t in any way mean that your friends who still homeschool are proving superior motherhood.
You do the best you can for your kids, each school year. And you should have the freedom to decide that that definition of “best” might just change from year to year, from child to child, from season to season.
It’s okay to backpedal, to sell your curriculum, to trade the pajama-days for the alarm-clock ones. And it’s okay to be looking forward to work outside the home again, or an easier relationship with one of your kids, or the space to really miss your children. There are a million factors to consider, and please, please give yourself the freedom to consider them honestly. While we can ideally head in a direction, life changes, and we have to figure the story out as we’re in the middle of the stage living it. Maybe you never expected this when you were deciding about that, back then. And that’s really, really okay. A mother is no fortune-teller.
Sometimes the lines we draw in the sand need to be erased, redrawn, or leaped over. Maybe one of our greatest mistakes early on is that we drew them too deep in the first place.
But, God is a God who carries our kids, who works good in all things and in all places, and he is most definitely not limited by where our little ones spend their learning hours. Truly. Just be open to prayer, follow your peace, allow for different paths for different kids, and really listen to your spouse.
Know that there will be things that you hate about sending you kids to school, just like there are things you probably hated about homeschooling. But, there’ll be things you love, too. And this is natural and to be expected– life is never all good or all bad.
And just like you homeschooled them because you knew in your gut that it was the most loving gift you could give your kids, be willing to admit that maybe sending them to school, this year, is an extravagant love-gift to them, as well.
With lots of love and grace for the line-jumping,Laura, another homeschooling mom, considering school for next year
What ideals have you had to reconsider lately?
Thoughts on homeschooling vs. public/private school? Thoughts on why mothers are so hard on each other in their kid-decisions?