8 Reasons You Should Never Become a Missionary

by Laura on January 24, 2012

1. Don’t Become a Missionary if You Think You Are Going to Change the World. First, high expectations doom to disappoint, but, also, maybe your desire to change the world is trumping your desire to serve. Ask yourself if you would be happy moving overseas to a much harsher environment in order to quietly help a local, while getting no recognition and seeing no fruit in the process.  If you can answer honestly yes, then maybe you’re still in the running. {Don’t worry, we thought we would’ve answered yes, but found out that we really had some unhealthy saviour-complexes to begin with. You can read about that here: On Living a Good Story and Not Trying So Hard and The Guy in the Orange Shirt .}

2. Don’t Become a Missionary to Make Yourself Better. My first mission trip was as a middle schooler to Jamaica. I’m not really sure how much good we actually did, but I do remember one of the missionaries we worked with. His name was Craig, and he had some of the biggest glasses I’d ever seen. And the dude talked to everybody about Jesus. Everyone– the pot-smoking Rastafarian in the line, the tourists at the store, the check-out guy at the food stand. And I remember turning one time to another missionary who worked with him and asked what made him so “good” at evangelizing.  The older missionary said, “Craig?  Oh, he didn’t come to Jamaica and become like that. He was already like that in the States.”

And I think Craig with the big glasses dispels the lie that if you move overseas, then you will magically become a superhero Christian. Um, false. What you are here, you’ll be there. And while it’s true that the change of environment can spark growth, it doesn’t mean you’ll go from luke-warm average Christian to Rob-Bell-Cool-On-Fire-Mother-Theresa just because you suddenly find yourself on another continent. Pretty sure it doesn’t work that way.

3. Don’t Become a Missionary if You Think You Have the Answers and the Nationals Don’t. Westerners have clunky shoes.  This is just true. We are loud and obnoxious and, good Lord, arrogant. Our DNA has us descending on other cultures and dictating ways they can “fix” themselves, while throwing money at their problems. I think I’ve learned that every good missionary LISTENS, first. And listens, a lot. {Don’t worry, I suck at this still. You can read about that here, Rich Guy with the Crappy Car or Quiet Heroes.}

4. Don’t Become a Missionary if You Can’t Hack Transition. We’ve been overseas now for less than two years, and we have moved houses three times, taken two major trips, and have gotten close to and then had to say goodbye to over 15 good family friends. People come and go on the mission field. Terms are up and governments change the visa laws. You find a deal on a house or the house you are in has rats. When you sign up for missions, like it or not, realize it or not, you are signing up for a transient lifestyle. {On Moving House, Like A Lot and New Girl both speak to this reality.}

5. Don’t Become a Missionary if You Think You Are Really Pretty Great, Spiritually-Speaking. There’s nothing like moving to a foreign country to reveal all the crap that’s in your heart.  Seriously. I have cussed more, cried more, been more angry, had less faith, been more cynical and, generally speaking, have become in many ways a worser person during my last two years of serving in Asia. Call it culture-shock if you will, but I tend to think the stress of an overseas move thrusts the junk that was conveniently- covered before out into the blazing-hot-open.

6. Don’t Become a Missionary if You Think Living on Support is Cake. It might look easy, but it is most definitely not– this monthly process of holding your breath and praying that you get a full paycheck , while knowing that even that paycheck is based on the kindness of your parents or your friends or the lady you know hardly has two pennies to rub together anyway. And then, when you do have a little money, you stress about how you should spend it —  Should I treat myself to a coffee? Do the kids really need to go to the pool today? Should I buy the more reliable scooter or the used one that will {probably?} be just fine?

And then, and then, shudder, there’s that awkward process of asking for it in the first place and feeling like you are annoying-the-heck out of the same people, who happen to be the only people you know  — like that pushy lady selling Tupperware down the street.

The whole thing might be great for your faith, but it can sure be a killer on your . . .  heart, finances, sense of self-worth, savings, relationships, budget, fun, and freedom.

7. Don’t Become a Missionary if You Aren’t Willing to Change. Flexibility is more important than I ever thought it would be in an overseas life. So is humility, actually. Unfortunately, neither of these qualities is naturally at the top of my Character-I.Q. However, I have learned that the more determined you are to stick to your original plan– regarding ministry or living situation or friendships or organizations or personal growth– the more painful it is when that plan changes, and change it most definitely will. It’s the ones who humbly hold things loosely that I think can go the distance with far less collateral damage.

8. Don’t Become a Missionary to Find Cool Friends. Now, I’m not saying you won’t find amazing friends– maybe the best in your life– but there is no denying that the mission field can draw some pretty odd ducks. {Of which, I, of course, am not one. See #7 regarding my natural humility.} Don’t be surprised, though, if you find yourself in a church service with ladies wearing clothes from the 80’s singing praise songs from your middle-school years like Awesome God, but without even the drums. Don’t be surprised, too, if your social interactions are awkward at best with many of your fellow mission-souls. Living out the in jungles for twenty years might do wonders for your character and strength and important things, like, oh, the translation of the Bible into another language, but it can sure do a number on a person’s ability to shoot the breeze in a church lobby somewhere.

But, there, again, maybe there’s a necessary shifting that has to happen to your definition of cool, anyway.


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  • Terry Scott

    Dont delay being on the mission field either, there is no such thing as being ready for it. Yes, God does teach you things to get you ready, after all i am an MK. My parents have 8 kids and I love childrent, and have a heart for ministry. If i waited until I was ready to share the Gospel, I never would, its scary but its amazing and worth it. If you feel God calling you to go on a missions trip, go for it, but dont let it end there. Dont let it start there. Your school is a mission field, your local Walmart, McDonalds. Start before you go, Start right now, tell all your friends. Dont let yourself be discouraged if you Dont see fruit. The Average person has to hear the Gosper seven times…did you read that…seven times before they accept Christ. Even if you dont see the fruit someone else might because you planted that seed.

  • Counterculturalist

    Hate missionaries they’ve been the source of colonialism and oppression for a while. It shocks me how Christians cannot be quiet about their beliefs, no, they have to go across the globe and tell everyone they’re wrong, and Christ is right. My goodness. If you want to do real good to the world, join the Peace Corps, not the missionaries.

  • Jeff J. Johnston

    Wow loved this article. My wife and I, along with 2 children 13 and 19 are considering a move to Asia. The comments were more of a confirmation and encouragement to me as I have thought of several of your points. My wife and I own a business and have been pastoring a small group for a few years and just recently felt a “nudge” in this direction. Its great to have faith but I appreciate the reality in your posts.

  • LivitKnights

    Can I be a missionary if I think that I might like the Missionary position?

  • TarTar

    So what exactly would you suggest for people who have a burning desire to do more? I’m glad I read this, it brought clarity on the subject for me but now what do I do? I’m aching to serve my God and hilariously enough I probably know just about as much as the people I so want to witness to.. I’m a mother of a three year old with one on the way and I’m ready to change and grow, I just have nowhere to start. Desire isn’t good enough for me, I NEED to do something before I leave this earth that pertains to saving lives for eternity. I’m at a loss…

  • Chris

    What if u want to become a missionary but are not paying your credit bills at home. Have no where to store your belongings and have no support if family because you don’t want their support? Then where do u turn to?

  • Catie Caplan

    I don’t agree with this at all. If GOD chose you to be a missionary, HE will support you the rest of the way. It may be hard, but life isn’t a piece of cake. So don’t discourage people who have been called by GOD to be a missionary.

  • http://www.nicatingles.com Wayne Tingle

    “Don’t become a missionary if you’re not willing to change.” Preach. We’ve been pulled and stretched and changed into something new. Great read!

  • Abs

    God obviously has been knocking at your door for a while but you seem to have it all figured out don’t you. You come off selfish, immature and ungrateful and clearly unaware of the raw realness of gods love and our job to shine his glory. You shouldn’t be able to influence the Internet and other Christians looking for answers because you just bring a lack of peace and a huge echo of doubt. Humble yourself maybe and you would see with gods eyes instead. Your pride is very much in your way.

  • Patrick Dooley
  • Jacob

    This is a terrible article, you don’t become a missionary for reconition, even if you help one person you still are doing gods work and you know you did it and don’t need any one eles opinion or praises on it.

  • Needamiracle

    Indeed! I am proud of you. Glory be to God you found him. I know the feelings of rejection all too well. I feel I have a calling. I pray God leads you. Have Faith and walk with Jesus, I promise He will never let us down. His love and commitment are unconditional. Stay prayed up use your Bible for everything, it alone has all humanities answers. I pray we meet in heaven and know one another. God bless with much love! !

  • Chelsey Schoessel

    wow im so touched at that age i WISH i had your ambition and truth at heart live strong and i believe in you and what your worth is!!!

  • JJ

    This is pretty much the only thing I have read about the missionary life that is actually accurate. I’m a former missionary kid.

    Statistically speaking adult TCKs (third culture kids) have far higher rates of serious mental illness than the general populace.

    I also do not know one (genuinely not even one) adult who was a missionary kid that is content, well-rounded, financially stable and with successful relationships. It just does not happen. It took me until I was 30 to graduate from university. The norm is about 21-22.

    If your ego commands you to work on the mission field, leave the idea of having kids out of it.

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